All posts by Kelle Martina

Finding her Inner Goddess, Step 1

Many men ask me about the woman in their life, “How can I make her more Dominant?”

Well, first of all, you can’t make her do anything. And buying a vanilla woman a whip and nipple clamps for Valentine’s Day and telling her she can use them on you however she wants isn’t likely to be met with anything like you fantasized.

If you think printing out pictures of sexy Dommes and buying her a leather bra is going to illicit anything close to “Domme of your Dreams”, think again. She is probably thinking you are comparing her to the sexy internet porn women of leather and latex, and going to hide the bra and never talk about it again.

The best place to start is by serving her(what a novel concept!), not telling her what you want to done to you. After all, Fem Dom is all about her, is it not? What’s her favorite kind of coffee? Bring it to her in bed. What makes her feel sexiest(NOT what you think she looks sexiest in)? This might be silk pajamas, and not the leather bra and thong you were imagining. In order for a woman to begin feeling ‘Dominant’ (I hate using the term that way, because it’s not something you put on like a pair of shiny boots, but instead a way of being. At the same time, one can feel more or less Dominant, depending on their mood) she has to feel confident. This is going to vary from woman to woman, but if you’ve known her for very long you will know what makes her feel like she’s Queen of the Universe. You need to tap into that.

Examples of what you can do to serve Her:

-Do her least favorite chore. Don’t say anything about it, just do it extremely well.

-Is there something she’s been eyeing in a magazine, in the store window? Treat her.

-Don’t initiate sex for a whole week. When she does, please her completely. Don’t even involve your cock in the equation. Masturbate beforehand if necessary.

-This might seem hokey, but I encourage the use of ‘sex games’. Whoever loses gets to be the other person’s “slave for a day”. Make sure you lose. This kind of ‘permission’ might let her do things she might not normally.

-Boys into cuckholding: Ask her how she feels about the idea of an open relationship where the woman could have sex with whoever she likes, but the guy never did. A lot of women would be refreshed by this option.

– Very few people dislike back rubs. Watch some YouTube videos for some techniques if you feel completely hopeless. Include dim lights, a candle, and massage oil or lotion. Nice music a plus.

The most important thing to keep in mind is that once you start doing all these nice things for her, she doesn’t ‘owe’ you anything. You don’t deserve a beating or a strap on fucking just because you gave her a night off from chores last week. Start with her interests and go from there.

Kinky Travelling!

Boys love their toys and I have one of my favorites who recently asked if he could be released from chastity for the duration of a flight trip.

Well, since they make lovely plastic chastity cages and even plastic locks, my answer was naturally, a smiling NO.

Here is a great article from theticklespot.com on how to travel with your sex toys.

“Remember the good old days when you could throw your lubricant, sex toy cleaner and giant honking dildo in your carry-on bag and not really worry about it? My friend, those days are long gone. I appreciate air travel safety on all levels – terrorists suck, go America. So TSA, I’m willing to work with you, for your sake and for mine. If you travel with sex toys, you’ll need to work with them too.”

Read the rest here.

A Guide to Reading Miss Kelle’s Body Language

This is a guide on reading my body language, geared more towards when I am submissive and recieving spankings, but I realized it really works for just about anything.

Body is Tense, not relaxed – I am in pain and not enjoying it.

Grimacing – I don’t like this. Do something else.

Trying to get up/raise myself from my position- I really don’t like this. I am about to hit you. Be warned. If I can’t hit you, my foot will connect with your balls.

“Ouch. OUCH. OUCH!” – This fucking hurts, and I am trying to let you know. You are nearing my limits. Otherwise “Ouch” is not really something I say. This is not a safeword, however. I don’t use an elaborate code system when I mean STOP NOW. I say “red”.

Sitting Quietly with Eyes Closed – I am patiently waiting. Easy, right?

Body slack, quiet – I am enjoying this. Continue.

Soft Noises or Moaning – Yes, I can get used to this. Don’t stop.

Body completely relaxed and making low noises- This is very good. Keep doing what you’re doing. Don’t go faster or harder. This is the place you need to be.

Eyes glazed with a faint smile – If this is after our play, then I am very happy and enjoying my playtime-high. Let me relax and have some water. If you’ve been talking to me for a while and this happens, I’m bored. Tell me something interesting.

Yes, I know women are complicated(trust me, I’m the first person to bitch about it) but there’s a Cliff Notes manual about me, for you. Please don’t make me make this required reading. I’m really not that hard to read. Happy Playing!

This Week!

While age-play is one of my favorite roleplay games, playing with me as a “mommy figure” with a male who is playing younger really is not my cup of tea.

I had a bit of a turnaround this week with a session with Miss Noel. Miss Noel was the Mother of a naughty older boy, and I was her new girlfriend. Of course, I had to make sure that I was respected as the new authority figure in the house as well. We had a lot of fun with corner time, lots of spnakings, paddlings, and I made him write lines in a notebook, “I will not get another B again” while Miss Noel and I were very distracting on the couch. She has such a lovely mouth…mmm.

Good times!

Christmas Wish List

Want to know what I want for Christmas? If your gift is not anonymous, I can thank you and send a pic of me with it, of course!

 

  • Amazon.com Wish List : Everything I want, updated often!
  • HauteLook eGiftCard : A website with daily discounts on luxury and designer brands.
  • Victoria’s Secret Gift Cards: My sizes are 34DD in bras, Small in Panties, and Medium in Clothing items, fi you’d like to get me soemthing specific.
  • Fabric.com or Joann gift cards: So I can do even more sewing!
  • I really want a pair of long 100% silk pajama pants!
  • A pair of knee high black boots 4- 5 inch heel, pull on with no buttons or laces. One long zipper ok. Size 6.

 

Some Christmas Cheer! 😉

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